“There
is no fear in love.
But perfect love drives out fear,
because
fear has to do with punishment.
The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”
1 john 4:18 NIV
I have never really understood this verse until
recently. I never understood a LOT of
scripture the way that I do now. And I
freely confess all the understanding I have now (and any I came by in the past –
though I didn’t realize at the time - and any I come by in the future) is entirely
God gifted. It is only by His Grace that
I am able to write and to share. It is only what He feeds me of His own hand
that I am able to then pass along to you.
And from my reading and study time in the Bible, it is most certainly only
by the illumination of God’s Word by the Spirit reading for me (or speaking
through and having directed the heart of someone I’m listening to deliver a
sermon) that I can begin to comprehend the real value and meaning of the Word –
otherwise, they are just words on a page.
Know, too, that when you read the Word of God, any
understanding that you have – when the Word speaks to your heart – it is the
illuminating work of the Spirit within you.
Begin to recognize when the Spirit is stirring in you as you read, and
you may start to recognize that suggestions you notice throughout other parts
of your day are not merely thoughts that occur to you but actual direction by
the Voice of God Himself within you. He
is always guiding you, leading you, encouraging you. It is an amazing thing when you realize that
you have not just an internal compass that is constantly directing your course,
but also that the Spirit is truly your constant companion & you are, indeed,
never alone – not even for a moment.
Ok… so back to the verse.
I did some mind wandering about just what it means to be rooted in fear –
and this is what I got:
FEAR
In our
lives, with others, we often act out of fear of judgment because of fear of
Punishment –
chastisement, penalty, reprimand, retribution
Criticism –
censure, disapproval, disparagement, condemnation, denigration
Rejection –
negative response, refusal, rebuff, dismissal
When we
experience a lot of these things, and we haven’t been healed by love yet… we
end up internalizing a lot of
Guilt -
Shame – Remorse – Self-reproach
We can end up going through life with crushing low self-esteem, and even an inherent lack of self-worth
We end up
carrying very heavy BURDENS - some imposed by others, some imposed by self –
and often we fall into a habit of refusal to release those burdens
We SHUT
DOWN – we start to believe we are unworthy of love; we begin to shut others
out, refusing to believe it possible they truly love us because we live
expecting all this negative reinforcement
Then we
carry this awful shame based way of operating (because we have internalized it
so much that it has become our way of life, our “natural” thought process, our
identity) into our relationship with God…
We shut Him
out; we begin to believe that we are so awful and wretched we are unworthy of
His love, so we reject Him; we stop receiving His love… we’re closed off when
we need Him most - we know the Bible says He’s with us, but we can’t feel His Presence
anymore… we lose hope and fall deeper
into the pit of despair
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It’s a
pretty grim picture, huh?
Do you
identify with any of that?
I know I was shut down from God for a long time. I was SO depressed – many times suicidal. In so very much pain, I would hide myself in
self medicating and self harm. I would
pray sometimes, but others I honestly felt like “What’s the point?” People would tell me they’d pray for me, but
it was of little comfort because I felt like God didn’t care.
I had closed myself off from Him. Though I didn’t understand then that it was
ME that did the closing off in the relationship. I couldn’t understand why He was so distant,
why He’d let me suffer. In fact, the first time I read about living in
a shame and rejection based mentality and how it could have devastating effects
on my relationship with God, I STILL didn’t get it. But I went back and re-read that chapter at
the Spirit’s behest & that time… THAT time I got it. I understood completely. I was ready for what God had to show me that
time around – the TRUTH of the matter was revealed to me.
So I encourage you that if this message doesn’t entirely make sense the first go ‘round, consider bookmarking this post & pray about it. Come back to it later, asking the Spirit to talk to you about it. Allow HIM to teach you.
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Ok, I
didn’t come here just to paint a miserable picture. So let’s
look at that verse again…
"There is no fear in love [dread does not exist],
but full-grown (complete, perfect) love turns
fear out of doors
and expels
every trace of terror!
For fear brings with it the
thought of punishment,
and [so] he who is afraid has not reached the full
maturity of love
[is not yet grown into love’s complete perfection].”
1 john 4:18 AMP
Did ya
get that? The one
who fears is not YET made perfect in love… There
is still HOPE! There is
ALWAYS HOPE when GOD is part of the equation!!!!
God still has a plan for those living in dejection – coming from
a place of shame and guilt, carrying heavy burdens they have struggled to
release, whether forced upon them by others or self-imposed. God longs to restore all His children to a RIGHT
relationship with Him. I don’t just mean
forgiveness here – I mean God desires for each of us to have a good and
fruitful, real, meaningful and personal love relationship with Himself. And He will pursue your heart relentlessly
all the days of your life to draw you into one.
I know it’s hard to believe in this moment, but He
constantly, continuously offers His love freely even when we have shut down and
cannot “feel” it. I tell you surely, we cannot trust our feelings. We must seek the Spirit’s help in
understanding the TRUTH that our feelings are not reality and are most
prone to manipulation and twisting by the enemy to keep us trapped in a
defeated mentality. I struggled with
this concept the fist several times it was presented to me & only now understand
it because Jesus Christ Himself explained it to me repeatedly over the course
of months of personal encouragement in my daily prayers with Him. I encourage you to write this note down and
pray over it – ask God to illuminate this subject for you and give you
understanding where there is none. And keep
on asking, keep on praying – be persistent.
"Ask and
you will receive,
Seek
and you will find,
Knock
and the door will be opened unto you."
Luke
11:9
This verse does not ANYWHERE in it say ask once, seek occasionally,
knock halfheartedly. We must be diligent and persist. Work at building a real relationship with God
in your life asking Him to help you come to understand ever more day by day
that it is by far the most precious thing you can ever have in life. Ask Him to help you know and comprehend that all
else can be taken away in the breath of an instant, but the Lord your God is
yours FOREVER.
Trust me when I tell you that you will not regret spending
time seeking God’s heart… He loves you more than you will ever know. And the joy that you will find from walking
with Him daily will surpass anything you have ever experienced that is of this
world.
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Thank you so much for joining me today.
I hope you enjoyed this message & that you'll
share it with someone else who might need
to be encouraged in the Lord today.
If you're struggling with living
in a shame based place,
know that you are not alone!
God is with you even when you cannot feel Him...
and ask for the Spirit to make Himself
known to you in ways you've
never experienced Him before -
as your Comfort, your Constant Companion.
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Until next time...
Be blessed! <3
© K. Michelle Payne 2015
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